Reconciling emotional dependency

There was a point in my mission when I realized that with some of the problems and struggles I faced all God had to do was show love for me and things got better. Here are some thoughts on that.

When we are loved and can see the evidence of that love we will be more confident and aware to the great things around us. When we see a lack of evidence that we are loved our confidence drops and we become introverted.
The important part of this love thing is whether or not we see the love that is around us. Those closest to us can love us and do it openly through their words, actions and so forth. But if we choose not to see it then that love has no effect on us.
Shakespeare said, "They do not love who do not show their love". Love is the great solution to life and it is not love unless expressed outside the realm of thought.
Now, God loves all and does it best. The great abundance in the universe that so many people draw invisible inspiration and strength from is this love. To finally recognize the great love which He has for us is inspiring and ennobling. It lifts us from our mistakes and fallen ways. So much in life becomes easy when this love is simply observed.
But this wasn't enough. God commanded us to love Him, and then love one another. Why? Because it isn't enough to simply be loved, we must love in return. Only then is the circle complete and life fulfilled.The film "Moulin Rouge" had questionable morals but they used one quote full of truth. They quoted Eden Ahbez saying, "The greatest thing you'll ever learn is just to love and be loved in return". And then we find another poignant idea in this quote by Edith Hamilton, "When love meets no return the result is suffering and the greater the love the greater the suffering". So why would I love if there's a possibility of suffering? The opposite of this is true. When love meets return the result is joy and the greater the love the greater the joy.
And so instead of being placed here on earth all by our lonesome we have people all around us. For those of us who enjoy our space and alone time this is a definite and ever present problem. Yet they will always be there. What a blessing? Endless opportunities to love, even just a little bit. In our world of increasing social isolation we must not fail to make emotional connections with the people around us, no matter how small. Otherwise we will slowly suffocate and die from lack of emotional connections.

Go out and heal your heart and the hearts of the world. Don't give into this idea of being emotionally independent, you will slowly starve yourself. And when you love remember that God has commanded us to love only TWO beings with everything that we are. That is God, and your spouse. These two are the only beings with whom you should put all your heart, they should keep it safe.